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stephanielin wrote in sweet_androgyny

Hi, I'm new to this community, my name is Stephanie.  I'm a 20 year old pre-med student.  I guess I am bi-sexual.

I never really considered myself gender-queer or anything, but throughout the years I began to notice that the people who I looked up to and who attracted me most were usually androgynous and I decided I wanted to be like them.  I see myself as stuck in a role.  Not that I don't like gender-roles, I revel in them.  I just resent having to stick with just one.  I knew very young that, although I liked being a girl alot, I also wished sometimes that I could be a boy instead.  I always wished I could change from one to the other at will.  I love gender-roles.  Whenever I see a gay couple, the first thing I wanna know is who is on top.  I hate gender.  I wish everyone on earth were the same gender and we got to define our roles instead of them defining us.  I love androgynous looking bodies, I always wished I had one, but sadly while I'm not fat, my hips are too big for me to be mistaken as a guy, and I am short to top it off.

...that, and I wish I had a penis.

I don't quite have myself figured out, but maybe if I keep writing and reading about it, I will piece the puzzle together.  Anyway, here is some pic-spam:


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Hey, I can relate to your post a lot.

I'm 19 and female, and I've never felt that I'm not a girl. But I also find androgynous/genderqueer people to be very attractive. I'm also bi, so gender really doesn't matter to me. I've always been a tomboy and I've been really interested in gender roles and identity ever since I became a feminist a couple of years ago.

I see gender as a performance. Some days I like to wear make-up and jewelry, and some days I want to wear baggy clothes and try to pass as a boy. I have a big chest and hips so it's hard for me to do that, but I think it's a fun challenge. I can sort of see myself as genderqueer, but I don't try to look androgynous all the time. I try not to let expectations of what it means to be a woman stop me from wearing what I like.

It's true that gender and gender roles make up so much of our daily lives, and I wish it weren't like that. But it's still amusing to play with expectations.

I think you could pull off an androgynous look. Put your hair up in a baseball cap and wear loose fit jeans. =)

I hate gender. I wish everyone on earth were the same gender and we got to define our roles instead of them defining us.

I agree with this so much.

That, and I love your icon ^-^

argh! Imagine quotation marks abour the first bit. I fail at lj...

Welcome to the site, Stephanie. In due you fit the pieces to the puzzle together. I will be having a discussion next month about trans-gender issues. I will also speak about the stifling control mechanism of the gender binary system. I agree with the statement that we need to define our own roles.

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